Dealing with Difficult People Blog

It is difficult to know what to do when friends ask you for money. Here are some tips to help you deal with this difficult situation
Do you often find yourself trying to resolve the financial difficulties of your friends and relatives? From personal experience, I know this is a difficult situation. At times, it can seem more difficult than solving our own financial problems.
There is no right way to deal with the financial problems of other people. It will depends on the nature of your relationship with them. However, here are a number of suggestions to bear in mind.
1. Should I lend money to my friends?

“Neither a borrower nor a lender be; For loan oft loses both itself and friend,”
- LORD POLONIUS: From Shakespeare’s Hamlet, 1603

Lending money to friends and family is a potentially awkward situation and can be the source of conflict in a relationship. Before lending money to friends, ask yourself these questions:

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7 Tips for Resolving Conflicts

I read a blog post recently called 7 Tips for Resolving Conflicts Quickly and Peacefully written by Stephen Hopson

Out of the seven tips he gives the most important one to me was the first one
- Keep Calm

That sounds so easy, but in practice is not. Once you have lost your cool, you are incapable of really doing the rest on the list.

One of the best ways to keep calm is firstly to breathe! Don’t forget to breathe!! However the aspect of breathing is the thing that makes the difference- breathing deeply.

Breathe in through the nose to the count of 5, and out through the mouth to the count of 7. This will get additional oxygen to your brain to enable you to think clearly, and will give you a few precious moments to do the next part of keeping yourself calm - to control your self talk.

At the moment we start to lose our cool, out thoughts become irrational, as they are fueled by our emotion. To save yourself going downhill with those thoughts, you need to re affirm positive self talk, and get the situation into its proper perspective. When faced with a difficult person, our greatest temptation is to take it personally. At that point the chances are that we will respond to the person in a way that makes us also a difficult person!

Start A Crusade To Help Difficult People

Countless sad songs have been dedicated to lonely people who can’t seem to cope up with the world. A hit song in the seventies lamented that “sometimes it feels like you and me against the world.” For all we know, it might be that most of us think the whole world is against us in some way or another.

Difficult people are among the lonely. In their inability to cope with their surroundings, they are often avoided by other people.

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Dealing with Difficult People - Ten Ways to Improve Your Communications Success
Have you noticed that some people seem to stop listening even before you start talking? Do you avoid approaching some people unless you absolutely have too? Improve your chance for conversational success by considering the following ten factors before starting your next conversation.
1. Consider the setting. Where will the conversation take place? Is it public or private? Are there other things going on that will be distracting? Is the setting approapriate for the topic?

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Have you noticed how somepeople become totally different when they get behind the steering wheel. Road rage is a difficult thing to deal with, and with aggressive drivers other peoples safety is of primary concern. This article gives some tips as to how to deal with an aggressive drive, especially when it someone that you love.
How To Deal With Difficult People Part 4 -The Aggressive Driver When He Is A Loved One
45 year old John terrorized his family when they were his passengers. He would yell at them if they complained about his driving.

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